where are the words?!?!?

I really don’t want my blog to become a source of venting and complaining, but I gotta get this out.  And in all fairness, I keep meaning to blog about our beach trip last weekend, but I haven’t gotten the pictures uploaded yet.  And what’s a good blog post without pictures?  I promise that will come soon.

But for now, I need to vent.  Many of you have probably not had the chance to see my wedding binder.  It is my lifeline through this wedding process. It has a tab for each section: venues, attire, photography, flowers, decor, and honeymoon.  I also have the guest list printed out, all of their addresses, and even a chart for recording attendances when guests start sending in RSVPs.  I have also made a copy of every check I wrote for various deposits that had to be made, and notes I have made when talking to vendors about various details.  I have a timeline of when things need to be done and a budget planner.  So, needless to say, I’m incredibly organized.  I’m a Type-A. It’s just what I do.

So take a minute to imagine the utter shock and complete panic/freak-out I had when I got a response email last night from the wedding coordinator at the church saying she never received any confirmation or deposit for our wedding, and did not have our wedding booked, and another bride is now already booked for Oct 8th. After that I was on the phone with my mom in about 3 seconds, and through the tears I was able to explain the situation.  We checked the bank statement online, and sure enough the deposit check had cleared just a week or so after I had mailed it.  My mom, being the calm voice of reason, got on the phone with the church to speak her mind, something I am incapable of doing in a case like this, because I turn into a blubbering idiot. I hate it, but it just happens, and I can’t stop it.  Unfortunately, I also had to work last night (Wed night), so I had to get out the door while she hashed out the situation.

And still unfortunately, it has not been resolved.  The church claims I was supposed to email them a confirmation of the date (which was never communicated to me in mine and Greg’s meeting with the wedding coordinator back on Jan 31st).  Yep, I can tell you exactly what day we went to see the church, what day I mailed the check and what day it cleared the bank.  Type-A.  That day I wrote down in my notes that all I needed to do from there was mail in a deposit check.  And because of my Type-A’ness, I even wrote “deposit for Amy Graves and Greg Boggs’ wedding- Oct 8th, 2011” on the memo line of the check and put “Attn: Sally Doe” on the envelope to ensure it was delivered to her at the church.  (No, she is not really named Sally Doe, but I don’t want to completely bash anyone).  But, with AAAALL of that, they are still saying that I had to call/email to confirm.  NOW they are saying that.  No one said that 7 months ago.

I’m devastated, honestly.  It’s the most beautiful little white country church and the 1st thing I wanted when I began this whole wedding process.  Yes, no matter what, the day will still be beautiful and I’ll still get my husband in the end.  But, does it make me a bad person to want it all to be perfect?  I don’t understand why God has done this.  I have worked so hard to make sure all my ducks were in a line.  And now it’s all a mess.

So, if you are a wedding guest reading this, this is your heads up that there will have to be some changes to our wedding day.  I don’t know yet if it is simply the time, or the time and the place.  I don’t know what we will work out yet.  But you will all be notified one way or another. In the meantime, please say a little prayer for me.  I don’t know how much more wedding woes I can handle.  I just want to get to the other side with Greg by my side, lounging in the sun at the Bahamas, and be able to look back and still love everything about our wedding day. 

One thought on “where are the words?!?!?

  1. ah, I hate that for you! surely it will work out. how the heck can they say it’s not reserved if they cashed your check?!

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