Moving forward

This is definitely the year of weddings! One year ago, my mom bumped into an old friend and over time they rekindled their friendship. That friendship more deeply developed and love blossomed. In July, on a lovely dinner date, he got down on one knee and asked for my mom’s hand in marriage. And last night, my mom and Dwayne tied the knot at a beautiful little private ceremony with family and a few of my mom’s closest girl friends. Me, Katie and Emily stood by our mom’s side, and Greg and Chuck stood with Dwayne…all one big happy new family. A friend of mine came and took some family pictures and pictures during the ceremony, but until I get that disc I don’t have pictures to show you. So, I will be posting again later with wedding pictures, but I wanted to at least give a little shout out to congratulate the happy couple 🙂

In other wedding news, this morning, Greg took me along with Katie and Chuck out to Odenville to show us the options him and my mom had narrowed down on Friday. I don’t know what I would do without them. My mom, Dwayne and Greg spent several hours Friday morning driving all over Leeds, Odenville and Springville on a hunt for pretty white churches. Such troopers! So today he took me to see them. Well, 2 of the church they were not able to get into on Friday, they just knew the outsides where pretty. We got inside today (since it’s Sunday morning), but those 2 were way too small. We would have to uninvite half of our guests! And we certainly wouldn’t want to do that 🙂 But, the third church he showed us was a winner. And get this….that orange carpet? It’s not actually orange at all! The picture Greg sent me from his phone made it look pumpkin orange. But, it’s actually dark crimson red, and it’s not bad!

So, now we just have to deal with notifying everyone of the change. But, the time will stay the same. It’s been a crazy few days, and I’m ready to get back to other plans. Oh, and other great news. I got to see the bridesmaids dresses last night and they look great!! It’s all coming together 🙂

the hunt continues

Well, I wish I could write that everything has been worked out with the church these past few days, and first-come, first-serve prevailed, but unfortunately that is just not the case.  It’s been such a mess. We have argued every point we could think of, but nothing has worked.  We’re just beating a dead horse at this point.  The church gave us some options, but they aren’t really that great. So yesterday Greg, my mom and my (almost) step-dad (wow, that’s so weird to say, but weird in a really-great-I’m-so-happy-for-my-mom sort of way!) went scouting out churches in the Leeds/Moody/Odenville area with same similar architectural style as our original church….which I will show you again, because I really LOVE it…

And I haven’t shown you the inside before because I wanted to save some things for surprises. But, now I will show you because I want everyone to see how beautiful it is, and why I’ve been so upset to lose it….

Sigh.  Moving on.  One church they found yesterday is almost as pretty on the outside, but the inside is a bit of a different story.  Let’s just say I’m pretty sure it was last remodeled in the 1970’s when orange and brown were in style.  And ironically, if there’s one color I have wanted to avoid for our October wedding, it’s orange.  But here’s the outside…

There’s another church in Odenville that is in the running for it’s pretty exterior, but unfortunately there was no one present yesterday for Greg and my mom to talk to, nor could they get inside the church to check things out. Here is that church…

So, we don’t have any answers yet, and I keep wishing it’s all just been a bad dream. Working all night and sleeping all day for 3 straight days kinda makes me feel like I’m temporarily separated from the world.  But, reality will kick on today, and I’ll have to really sit down and contemplate our options.  Greg has been so wonderful through all this. He and my mom have been my heros these past few days. They totally took control and have done everything in their power to try to make things right.  And if that wasn’t enough, I got the sweetest text message from Greg while I was at work tonight.  He told me how he couldn’t wait to see me walk down the aisle, and that I would be beautiful no matter where it was.  🙂  Orange carpet or not, I’ll be walking to meet my perfect husband who loves and supports me no matter what!  I’m a lucky girl.  And I’ll have another very special wedding today to brighten my spirits!  My dear sweet mother will marry her sweetheart today, and we couldn’t be more excited for the two of them. She deserves every bit of happiness!  So stay tuned!

where are the words?!?!?

I really don’t want my blog to become a source of venting and complaining, but I gotta get this out.  And in all fairness, I keep meaning to blog about our beach trip last weekend, but I haven’t gotten the pictures uploaded yet.  And what’s a good blog post without pictures?  I promise that will come soon.

But for now, I need to vent.  Many of you have probably not had the chance to see my wedding binder.  It is my lifeline through this wedding process. It has a tab for each section: venues, attire, photography, flowers, decor, and honeymoon.  I also have the guest list printed out, all of their addresses, and even a chart for recording attendances when guests start sending in RSVPs.  I have also made a copy of every check I wrote for various deposits that had to be made, and notes I have made when talking to vendors about various details.  I have a timeline of when things need to be done and a budget planner.  So, needless to say, I’m incredibly organized.  I’m a Type-A. It’s just what I do.

So take a minute to imagine the utter shock and complete panic/freak-out I had when I got a response email last night from the wedding coordinator at the church saying she never received any confirmation or deposit for our wedding, and did not have our wedding booked, and another bride is now already booked for Oct 8th. After that I was on the phone with my mom in about 3 seconds, and through the tears I was able to explain the situation.  We checked the bank statement online, and sure enough the deposit check had cleared just a week or so after I had mailed it.  My mom, being the calm voice of reason, got on the phone with the church to speak her mind, something I am incapable of doing in a case like this, because I turn into a blubbering idiot. I hate it, but it just happens, and I can’t stop it.  Unfortunately, I also had to work last night (Wed night), so I had to get out the door while she hashed out the situation.

And still unfortunately, it has not been resolved.  The church claims I was supposed to email them a confirmation of the date (which was never communicated to me in mine and Greg’s meeting with the wedding coordinator back on Jan 31st).  Yep, I can tell you exactly what day we went to see the church, what day I mailed the check and what day it cleared the bank.  Type-A.  That day I wrote down in my notes that all I needed to do from there was mail in a deposit check.  And because of my Type-A’ness, I even wrote “deposit for Amy Graves and Greg Boggs’ wedding- Oct 8th, 2011” on the memo line of the check and put “Attn: Sally Doe” on the envelope to ensure it was delivered to her at the church.  (No, she is not really named Sally Doe, but I don’t want to completely bash anyone).  But, with AAAALL of that, they are still saying that I had to call/email to confirm.  NOW they are saying that.  No one said that 7 months ago.

I’m devastated, honestly.  It’s the most beautiful little white country church and the 1st thing I wanted when I began this whole wedding process.  Yes, no matter what, the day will still be beautiful and I’ll still get my husband in the end.  But, does it make me a bad person to want it all to be perfect?  I don’t understand why God has done this.  I have worked so hard to make sure all my ducks were in a line.  And now it’s all a mess.

So, if you are a wedding guest reading this, this is your heads up that there will have to be some changes to our wedding day.  I don’t know yet if it is simply the time, or the time and the place.  I don’t know what we will work out yet.  But you will all be notified one way or another. In the meantime, please say a little prayer for me.  I don’t know how much more wedding woes I can handle.  I just want to get to the other side with Greg by my side, lounging in the sun at the Bahamas, and be able to look back and still love everything about our wedding day. 

birthdays!

Just the other day Greg asked me if I was excited about becoming an aunt.  No, Katie’s not pregnant. haha.  But Greg has a precious little niece and nephew, and although they are not new additions to the family, once Greg and I are married they will officially be MY little niece and nephew.  I get to be an Aunt 🙂  Little Bennett boy just turned 1 a few weeks ago, and Evey will be 3 in a few more weeks.  So, last weekend we celebrated birthdays for the two of them.  Bennett’s party was ice-cream themed, and the ice-cream man even came to the house for all the birthday guests to enjoy!

 family shot

 birthday boy!
 
 Evey loves some ice-cream
haha, and sweet Knox loved his snow cone!

The next day, we celebrated Evey’s birthday with a Ballerina themed party for her and her little friend, Evelyn. Yep, two Evelyns sharing a birthday party 🙂  The party was at the park, and all the kids were able to run around and play, then they all sat around eating pink doughnuts and sipping on milk and orange juice.

 Ya think Bennett likes powdered doughnuts? 😉
sweet birthday girls

birthday kisses!

Busy is an understatement

It’s amazing what all you can accomplish when the roommate has moved out and your fiance` goes out of town for the weekend.  I had a lot of time to myself, which was kinda nice, but it also allowed me to knock off a LOT of wedding tasks.  Let’s see, in the short 55 hours between when I got home from work 8am Friday morning until I layed down to nap at 3pm for work again Sunday evening, here’s what I accomplished:

  • cleaned the house (vacuumed and steam mopped the floors, and dusted)
  • received my bridesmaids’ gifts in the mail (which are absolutely adorable, and I can’t wait to show everyone!)
  • received some of the suspenders I ordered for the groomsmen, and then bought the other 2 at a local Belk store
  • picked up the envelopes for our wedding invitations and RSVP cards
  • got the envelopes to our dear family friend who is addressing them this week (yay!)
  • attended 2 precious birthday parties for my sweet little future neice and nephew (check back on the next post for those pics).
  • attended the farmer’s market at Pepper Place Saturday morning to discuss details of wedding flowers which will be provided by a local(ish) farmer….yeah, how fun is that? 🙂
  • bought some jewelry to wear on the wedding day, and then took that along with the shoes I had bought home to my mom’s to try on with my wedding dress….unfortunately, heels are too tall, and jewelry is too busy.  Both will get returned and will have to keep shopping.
  • went to Hancock Fabrics to look into buying burlap to make table toppers, and discovered I may be in over my head on that one.  Need to keep researching that idea.
  • did 3 loads of laundry (although I still have one more waiting for me)
  • stuffed all the RSVP cards into their envelopes

Now is that unbelievable, or what?!  I can’t believe I got all that done in just over 48 hours time.  It helped that I didn’t go to sleep Friday morning after work.  I snuck in an hour nap before baby B’s birthday party, but that’s about it.  Then of course I CRASHED at 9:15 that night, but luckily I had no trouble getting back up at 8am for the Farmer’s Market.

And thank goodness I got all that done this weekend, because this week is basically already gone. I have to work another mandatory overtime shift this week, so I’ll be working Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, and Thursday night.  Then Greg and I leave Friday to head to Nashville for his high-school’s opening football game.  His old coach called some of the older alumni to come home for the 1st game, so that should be fun.  I love me some football 🙂

Until then, it’s work and sleep, work and sleep, work………

wedding projects- cake toppers

How much do I LOVE Pinterest?!?!  I could not have gotten hooked to this site at a better time. It has been so unbelievably helpful in my wedding planning. I’ve been able to create a wedding style board and search for all kinds of ideas for crafts, table decor, bridesmaids dresses, flowers, cakes….seriously, it has been an incredible asset.  Along with Etsy.com.  I designed and ordered my bridesmaids gifts off of Etsy, my flowergirl dress is from Etsy, and am planning to get my garter from there as well.  The world wide web is an amazing thing.

So, speaking of wedding crafts, 2 of my dear friends and fellow bridesmaids helped me with a few things Friday night.  I have some great friends 🙂  Here’s what we made…

Ok first, here’s the inspiration.
These little bird cake toppers are $75 on Etsy!! Outrageous, and although VERY cute, not worth that kind of price. However, I knew I had seen these exact birds at Hobby Lobby for $2.99.  And the veil and top hat are merely made of tulle and felt, so I knew I could totally make these for WAAAAY cheaper.  And we did. Actually, my sweet friend Dana did. She sewed together a little top hat and bow-tie and made a veil for my bride bird and here’s the final result….

 I still need to either get some legs for them, or I may just find a nest for them to sit in. And the bride will get a pearl necklace too.  How cute are they?! I LOVE them. Granted they did take a while to make, so I can see where the Etsy lady is clearly charging for time, not supplies. But still.  Our price:  $2.99 for the birds, $0.87 for felt, $0.27 for tulle giving me a grand total of $4.13!  So worth it.
The other project of the night was making the 2nd mossy “B” to match the first one I made several months ago.  Here’s those final projects together…
These will hopefully display behind the cake tables somehow.
I’m excited that some of these little details are coming together.  I’m also excited about a change in the groomsmen attire that we came up with Friday night as well.  I wanted the groomsmen to stand out at the reception, and since I figured they would all take their jackets off since most the reception will be outside, I had originally considered doing vests under their jackets.  Then my friend asked me what I thought about suspenders, and after seeing this picture, I was sold!
How great would that look with chocolate brown suits?!  I think it’s great for the rustic/country look we are going for and for a fall wedding.  So, I’m off to shop around town for suspenders today!

my sweetie to the rescue

Man, what a day I had today, (or yesterday should I say….that’s what I get for writing at 2am).  I was stressed to the max.  I don’t think it helped that I just finished working 3 in a row, either.  I’m always worn out by that last night, and when you mix in changing schedules with any small problem…it suddenly becomes a big problem.  But I have such a wonderful, caring, husband-to-be that even when I’m freaking out about something and getting all upset (which always means tears for me…), he always has a way of calming me down.  He uses that soft, gentle “it’s going to be ok” voice, and usually by the end of our conversation, I’ve calmed down a little.  He stepped in today and took care of some things, and I’m so grateful to have him on my team.  “Team Boggs” is what he called us today.  🙂  And tomorrow we are going to knock out some more pertinent plans and then hopefully I can rest easier.

So out of my to-do list from yesterday, here’s our progress… EDIT: more progress 🙂

  • make sure bridesmaids dresses have ACTUALLY been ordered….again.
  • decide on grooms/groomsmen attire and set that up so guys can begin ordering their suits
  • find and order new envelopes (to replace the cheap ones) to match invitations from VistaPrint
  • decide on a date for bridal tea and bridesmaids’ luncheon
  • call Another Broken Egg to discuss details of a bridesmaids’ luncheon
  • fax form to Mortgage Banc to finalize home refinancing process
  • purchase plane tickets for honeymoon (?)….not sure how urgent that is, but I’m pretty sure prices are going UP
  • BUY GROCERIES….literally, I’m down to cereal and pasta
  • Go to Auburn on Sunday to help move Emily into college…and try not to cry.

It’s not much, but that #1 was a killer.  Tomorrow’s agenda: tackle “find and order new envelopes.”  A sweet family friend of ours has offered to address our invitations, so I’ve got to get her some envelopes!

In other news, I think we picked out our “first dance” song tonight 🙂  I’m not going to tell you exactly, but we’ve known all along we wanted to do a James Taylor song. Who doesn’t love James Taylor?!  I think the one we chose is fun, and sweet, and perfect for us 🙂

Small Panic = Need another To-Do list

I’m going to vent. Bear with me.  I had a small a few meltdowns yesterday. Actually, more like last evening and it continued on and off throughout the night at work when I got to thinking about wedding plans. For some reason when it was still July, October seemed so far away. Literally, as soon as August 1st hit, I’ve been panicking about wedding plans and there just doesn’t seem to be enough days on the calendar to fit everything in, especially when I sleep A LOT of days because I work a night shift. (Not to mention the mandatory overtime that I’ve had to work lately.) And so, you just can’t get much of anything done at 3am in the morning when the rest of the world is not functioning.  Thus, the panic sets in.

We decided to wait and do any showers/bridal teas/luncheons etc until after my sister’s wedding (which was July 16th), since she expressed wanting to have “her time” to celebrate, and so we gave her that. My only frustration now is that not only did we wait to have these events, but most of them were not even planned up until now.  So suddenly it’s August, and we have events to plan, but you have to allow time for invitations to get sent out, so basically everything is going to happen in the last 2-3 weeks prior to the wedding.  Somehow 9 weeks filled up REEEALLY FAST!!!  We have a wedding to attend, in which Greg is a groomsman, in Kentucky the 2nd weekend of September.  Greg is taking a bachelor weekend sometime in September.  I am, of course, required to work some weekends. Emily moves to college this weekend. How many weekends left does that leave us?

It also doesn’t help that all of my mom’s efforts have been on my sister’s wedding up until July 16th.  With Emily moving away to college this Sunday, the past 2 weeks have been devoted to taking care of that.  And as excited as I am and truly happy for my mom’s recent engagement, it’s a little bittersweet in that we are also now trying to squeeze in her vows ceremony with Dwayne in the next few weeks.  Not to mention, my in-laws have been consumed in wedding plans for Greg’s sister over the past 3 months. And maybe it’s just me, and my sensitive girl feelings, but it feels like mine and Greg’s wedding keeps getting pushed to the backburner.  As a result, I have pretty much done all the wedding planning on my own (with some help from Greg).  And it’s catching up to me. I NEED HELP!!!!! 

See where the meltdown came from?  Am I just being selfish?  If so, someone PLEASE call me out on it, and slap me back into reality or something.  But I didn’t expect to do all this on my own, but here I am freaking out over things not done, things that I though were done that I find out are not, and running out of time.

So, here’s my new to-do list for the next 3 days:

  • make sure bridesmaids dresses have ACTUALLY been ordered….again.
  • decide on grooms/groomsmen attire and set that up so guys can begin ordering their suits
  • find and order new envelopes (to replace the cheap ones) to match invitations from VistaPrint
  • decide on a date for bridal tea and bridesmaids’ luncheon
  • call Another Broken Egg to discuss details of a bridesmaids’ luncheon
  • fax form to Mortgage Banc to finalize home refinancing process
  • purchase plane tickets for honeymoon (?)….not sure how urgent that is, but I’m pretty sure prices are going UP
  • BUY GROCERIES….literally, I’m down to cereal and pasta
  • Go to Auburn on Sunday to help move Emily into college…and try not to cry.